Hello everyone! My name is Chris, and I am MJ’s fiancé. This is my first post in MJ’s blog, and I thought it would be cool to share some things about pre-marriage class we started attending last month.
We started going to the classes because as you already know, we are currently planning our wedding and we want to make sure we get to know the pastor who will be marrying us, but most importantly, we want to make sure we learn and know exactly what we need to do before marriage. Now, the funny thing is, I never thought that someone would really have to go to these types of things, and to be honest…the frustrating thing is the idea of going to ‘class’ (Who wants to go to class anyway?!?!). But after attending our first couple of sessions, I may have to backtrack on my initial feelings. It’s actually kinda cool.
One of the biggest things that stuck with me from the 2nd week’s class is the difference of how a Man and Woman react to Love & Respect in relationships. By the very nature of woman, they “Love”, they react and perform “Love”, through words and actions. It is something that they do without having to work, or plan for. It just…is. But for men, showing “Love” to our partner is not a natural gift that we have (But we DO LOVE our women!!!). It is not in our forefront to naturally react and show “Love” to our partner as it is like women. It is because of this difference that sometimes makes women feel “unloved” or “not cared for” (I’m sure many men can attest to this!!), when the opposite is true.
For “RESPECT”, Men (at least most men), respect is something that is embedded in our DNA. Of course, we Love and Respect our partner, but it is easier for us to show and give respect, than to display love. It is something that we do without having to work, or plan for. It just…is. But for women, although they understand it, they don’t apply it naturally like we do, in comparison with “Love”.
Without getting into too much detail, I thought it is good to sum up this topic and say that a part of having a harmonious relationship, men must be proactive to show love. And women, to proactively show respect to the man. Without respect to the man, he will not show love. And without showing love to the women, she will have a hell of hard time giving you her respect!!!
This is just a small but significant piece in the pre-marriage class that has definitely got me interested…and also hopefully for everyone else! More to come!